The joy of
guinea fowl! Last Friday I was in a hurry to get the chicken and
guinea fowl back into the coop because we were leaving for the
evening. I had already sent my princess and warrior inside to change
their clothes, thinking I would just get the chickens and guineas
into the coop, close the door and back inside I would go to change my
own clothes. However, the guineas had other ideas.
All of the
chickens were in and two of the three guineas. Every time I would go
to grab at Snowball (our white guinea), she would duck right out of
the way. To make matters worse, some of the chickens were beginning
to come check out the happenings so I'd stop the chase and shoo them
back in. Our rooster, Blackie, took up his spot right in the door
way. How was I to encourage Snowball to go up the ramp on her own
when HE was blocking the way?!? As you can imagine, I wasn't too
pleased with our resident rooster...
I finally
caught Snowball and put her inside the coop. As I did so, Blackie
comes walking down the ramp into the chicken run! Oh, boy! I went
inside the coop and, thankfully, he came back inside, and I closed
the door. I hurried in to change and off we went.
My man was
at the restaurant, and we were still 15 minutes away. He got seated,
we were 10 minutes away. He ordered and my salad had just arrived
when we sat down at the table. All in all, things worked out
fine...though I did relate the story of the guineas to him with
considerable emotion.
The next
day, I went to let the chickens out again. As Blackie rushed out the
door, he liked to be first, I thought of what had happened the
previous night. I watched as Blackie walked, okay he's beginning to
strut, around in the middle of the chicken run. In the middle of HIS
flock. And I thought.
I thought
of the many stories we've heard about mean roosters. I thought of
the comment, “Roosters are good for one thing, stew!” I thought
of how we wanted a rooster. I looked forward to hearing a
cock-a-doodle-doo on summer mornings. After all, what's a farm
without a rooster?
And as I
thought, I realized something. Last night, when he was standing in
the door way. And when he came down the ramp after I'd gotten
Snowball inside. He was protecting HIS flock. He was helping me
keep those hens and guineas in order. He was doing what our Creator
created him to do...lead and protect.
And that
may be the reason he's first out the door. It may be the reason he
struts around, with his head held high, in the middle of the hens.
It's not because he thinks he's so grand. He has a job to do. And
that's another reason we wanted a rooster, to help protect our hens
from predators! How's he going to do that if I'm shooing him away
while he's doing his job?
I think you
can guess where I'm going with this. The Lord has a way of taking
something you're looking at and applying it to other areas of our
lives. I thought about men. I thought of how many times they are
maligned in our words and actions. Just like the comments about
roosters being good for stew, we comment that our husbands are only
good for <fill in the blank>.
Oh, you're
being too harsh, you might think. It's not really the same thing.
We don't talk that way about our men. If you doubt me, think of some
of the recent sitcoms that have been on. “What about Raymond?”
comes to mind. How is Raymond portrayed? A strong leader of his
home and family, whom his wife respects, appreciates and looks to for
wisdom. Or a doofus, who couldn't find his way out of a paper bag.
Are his children learning to look up to him or laugh at him?
Admittedly, I've only seen that show a few times, but the general
impression I got was Raymond is a blockhead!
We, women,
cry out for a man to lead us, but when they do, we scold and nag them
for not doing it right (read: our way). No wonder our culture has
problems! Just as our Creator made roosters to protect their flock,
He made our men to protect their families and those who have no
protector. They are problem solvers. They want and need something
to focus their attention and energy on that will serve their loved
ones.
How can you
say that, you might ask. Well, I'm learning about it with my 7 year
old warrior. When he has productive work, he does great! He helps
me in the kitchen. He lets the chickens out. He helps me with the
laundry. He goes out to the mailbox and brings in the mail. He also
does his school work well, often with much enthusiasm. And he plays
well too, as long as it's grabbed his attention.
However,
when he's left to his own devices and has yet to find something to
engage him, watch out! It's then that he annoys his sister. It's
then that he throws a ball around the room. It's then that he
generally wanders around aimlessly and ends up trying the patience of
all who are around. He needs purpose. (Don't we all?)
And when I
was pushing Blackie back into the chicken coop, I wasn't letting him
do what he was made to do. And when I get on my son's case for
getting up from the dinner table to get us all napkins (or climbing
on counters to get cups), I'm not letting him do what he was made to
do. And when I tell my husband, no you're not doing <that>
right, I'm chipping away at his confidence and desire to lead our
family the way God created him to.
So, the
next time you see a funny commercial involving a “dumb guy” in
any number of possible scenarios, ask yourself what message is being
sent to our sons and husbands. Is that what you want them to think
of themselves? Is that the kind of leader you'd like for your
family? I'll pass on that. I'll take my man just the way God made
him, quirks and all. I'll thank the Lord for His graciousness in
allowing us to grow together in our faith. And I'll keep praying for
Jesus to help me be the wife He wants me to be, the wife my husband
needs to be the leader in our family.
When
Blackie has pecked my man, his response has been to pick our rooster
up and pet him. When recounting this to someone, they recalled that
they'd heard that's a good thing to do. Perhaps I ought to apply
that to my son and husband. Instead of pecking back when they're a
little out of sorts, I ought to love them more. I think I've heard
that somewhere before...
Lead on,
Blackie, lead on...
However,
each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself,and
the wife must respect her husband.
Ephesians
5:33, NIV84
P.S.
Since stories of persnickety roosters first reached my ears, I have
been praying over our rooster. I've prayed that the Lord would make
him a good rooster with an amiable personality. I trust Him to
answer those prayers, after all, He's the One who gave Blackie to us.
Tanya, you are so wise! I really enjoy reading your insights, and I appreciate that you share them. Thank you! Nancy
ReplyDeleteThank you! I have to give the credit to the Lord, though, as it must be Him that puts these things in my mind! : )
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